Ekatjan’s Dwelling

(16082007)
Semenjak menjelang kawinan gw 4 taun lalu, gw jadi suka banget akan segala sesuatu yang berbau2 kawinan. Pesta, dekorasi, catering, undangan, souvenir, semuanya, asal menyangkut kawinan dan keindahannya. Gw paling suka kawinan yang segalanya setema, nggak minimalis dan nggak tabrakan. Paling BT dengan kawinan yang berantakan, tema antara souvenir, undangan dan dekor, mis., tabrakan. Menurut gw, yang namanya kawinan itu, berhubung seharusnya cuma diadakan sekali seumur hidup, mesti di ‘pol-polno’ - kata orang Jawa - alias dibikin semaksimal mungkin. Sebatas kesanggupan orang masing- masing tapi lho..
Gw semalem nyoba nginget2 kawinan2 yang gw kunjungi 5 taun belakangan ini dan menurut gw bagus. Trus gw iseng bikin nominasi dan award buat mereka.
Penilaiannya amat personal lho, jadi bagus menurut gw blom tentu sama buat yang lain.

1.  Undangan paling bagus:
David dan istri’s (lupa namanya). Hotel Kartika Chandra. Undangannya besar, rada kotak,warna putih dengan ornamen motif Cina warna merah. Bagian luarnya diiket pake pita merah.
Runner Up:
- Yana dan suami’s. Hotel Borobudur.
Undangannya bentuk standar dan nggak terlalu besar, tapi sweet, warna pink dan tebel. Amplopnya nggak ada tutupnya dan kalo mau dibaca,undangannya mesti ditarik dari samping. Ada pita pink buat narik si undangan.
2.  Dekorasi paling bagus:
varie dan Lia’s. Patra jasa.
Bener2 maksimalis, rangkaian bunga, pita, kerlap-kerlip di mana2. Koridor yang menuju aula kawinan dibungkus dengan kain2 dan hiasan2. Pengerjaannya rapi banget dan keliatan diniatin.
RU:
- Michael dan istri’s. Hotel Aryaduta.
Ada tiang2 jalan pake rangkaian bunga dan lilin2. Cute!
- Deden dan Dhani’s. Gedung PTIK.
Walaupun menurut gw cukup minimalis, tapi banyak rangkaian bunganya dan rapi.
3.  Pelaminan paling bagus:
Didit dan Nuke’s. Hotel Santika.
Di antara seluruh variasi kawinan jawa, gw paling demen kalo pelaminannya gebyok. Nggak semua gebyok dibuat dengan bagus, tapi kawinan yang ini gebyoknya keren!
RU:
- Ismed dan Rika’s. Balai Sudirman.
Pelaminan gaya Padang, dominasi pink. Komposisi warna dan desainnya menurut gw bagus. campuran antara cute dan sweet.
4.  Makanan paling enak:
Mitra dan suami’s, Gedung Arsip.
Cateringnya dari Christ Iwan yang emang terkenal sedap punya. Tapi pas gw nyobain udang asam manis Thainya, waduh, sampe airmata mau ngalir saking enaknya!
RU:
- Danny dan Nuni’s, Gedung Serasan Bandung.
Nggak tau apa karena udara Bandung yang dingin dan gw lagi kelaperan berat, tapi ayam suwir-suwir yang gw makan enak banget! Rasanya manis-manis asin, kayak isinya lemper. Cateringnya dari catering di jalan Rajawali, tapi nggak jelas namanya.
- Evelyn dan suami’s. Balai Samudra.
Kalo nggak salah cateringnya Christ Iwan juga. Kebabnya yummy banget, sampe gw bungkus tisyu buat bekal..:)
5.  Souvenir paling ok:
Dwi dan Natia’s, Manggala Wanabhakti.
Souvenirnya 4 buah kartu ucapan  dan amplopnya dengan 2 macem desain kupu2, ditaro di amplop plastik dan dipitain oranye. Kesannya sophisticated dan cute!
RU:
- Didit dan Nuke’s, Hotel Santika.
Dompet koin dgn lapisan kain satin batik. Ditaro di kantongan tulle berglitter. Elegan banget deh.
- Varie dan Lia’s. Patra Jasa.
Waktu gw nerima souvenirnya, gw pikir cuma tempat perhiasan model besek warna coklat aja. Taunya pas dibuka, di dalamnya ada satu set tatakan gelas dari bahan sama. Unik banget!
6.  Kawinan paling mewah:
Ibet dan suami’s, Hotel Shangrilla.
Pestanya dibuat di dalam ruangan, nyambung ke poolside. Makanan heboh, champagne dan bir diedarkan para pelayan pake baki ke tamu2. Free flow pula.
RU:
- Dhika dan istri’s, Hotel Dharmawangsa.
Ruangan yang disewa ada beberapa dan sambung menyambung, termasuk ruangan penghubungnya. Dekor dan suvenir juga dari tempat mahal punya. Biasanya kalo udah gitu bisa lewat 1 M biayanya..:P
7.  Kawinan paling megah:
Didit dan Nuke’s, Hotel Santika.
Kombinasi antara dekor yang rapi dan gebyok yang megah, trus ada campur sari dan gamelan live, bikin kawinan ini gw pilih jadi kawinan termegah yang pernah gw datengin.
RU:
- Ismed dan Rika’s
Kawinan Padang kan emang biasa megah bo..:)
8.  Pasangan paling matching:
Harol dan Dewi, Gedung Arsip
Ini orang dua keliatannya kompak banget. Mungkin karena udah pacaran lama banget makanya kelihatan amat nyaman berdua.
RU:
- Zurly dan Stratya, Balai Kartini.
Kedua orang ini emang enak diliat. Nggak berat sebelah.
9.  Kawinan yang ‘exceed expectation’:
Varie dan Lia’s, Patra Jasa.
Terus terang gw nggak begitu suka dengan gedung Patra Jasa. Aulanya menurut gw kelewat sempit dan banyak tiang betonnya. Gw nggak pernah puas kalo ke kawinan di sini, tapi kali ini lain. Waktu masuk koridor yang ke arah aula, rasanya kita nggak berada di Patra Jasa, soalnya ruangannya didekor sedemikian rupa sampe manglingi abis. Yang lebih ok lagi, walaupun gw dateng telat banget, dekor dan bunga2 hiasan masih bertahan. Rangkaian bunganya nggak abis diambilin orang2.
RU:
Adi dan istri’s, di rumah daerah Ciputat.
Adi itu mantan supir gw. Rumahnya juga biasa banget, tapi dia bisa bikin pesta kawin yang heboh. Selain makanan rumahnya enak, dia juga bikin panggung buat dangdutan semaleman. Nyewa sound system dan artis setempat pula. Hebat dah nih orang!
10. Best wedding reception:
Didit dan Nuke’s, Hotel santika.
Dekor ok, pelaminan ok, makanan ok, souvenir ok, satu tema pula. Lalu didominasi warna merah, warna favorit gw. Jadilah ini resepsi yang paling bagus dari yang pernah gw datengin selama ini..:)
RU:
- Varie dan Lia’s, Patra Jasa.
Karena faktor exceed expectation, dan dekor yang amat bagus, kawinan ini masuk nominasi yang terbaik.
- Ibet dan suami’s, Hotel Shangrilla.
Makanan, ambience dan tamu2 yang asik jadi nilai lebih yang bikin gw milih kawinan ini jadi nominator best wedding recepion.

(01082007)
- Eka’s first encounter with supernatural things was at the age of 3  or 4, when her panda dolls and duck toy line up and made a parade - lead by a mysterious out of this world clown.
- Lives in a house with 8 spirit and sometimes chats with them for fun.
- Quite good at tarot reading (esp. for love) and crystal casting.
- Although according to a quiz is about 80-90% psychic, she doesn’t believe in most of the mumbo jumbo  nonsense things like: black cat myth, mirror break etc.
- Can cast good (bless) or bad (curse) spells, but so far the only bad spell casted was to give the hubby a nightmare. It was after a big fight..:))

(01082007)

Suppose there were two occurrences between
two spouses:

1. The wife has just delivered
a baby and her birthday is coming. When asked about the gift she wants for the
birthday, she said “My husband has given me the most valuable gift ever. Our
baby.”

2. The wife has just delivered
a baby and the husband’s birthday is coming. And about the gift, he said that
his wife has given him the most valuable gift ever. Their baby.

Did you notice which one is ‘odd’? Yep,
the first one.

Maybe we can relate those two occurrence
like this:

1. A husband gave, say, 100.000
to his wife. The wife saved this 100.000 along with her own money of the same
amount for about a year, got the interest and later used the money to buy
herself a birthday gift - from her husband.

2. A husband gave his 100.000
to his wife, and the wife saved this together with her own money of the same
amount. About a year later she used the combined money, plus the interest, to
buy a gift for her husband whose birthday is coming.

Got it? No? Well, if you haven’t catch the
odd concept yet, let me explain it more clearly.

I guess I don’t have to explain about the
second one, cuz it’s a quite ordinary good wife (money case) and especially good husband (baby case)
circumstances.

But look at the first one. Oh, my, it is a
self sacrifice concept, dude! The one that Javanese called ‘Nrimo’. How come
the other part gave just a little, as little as donoring the sperm (not to
mention really enjoying the ‘got laid’ part),and said to be giving a present?
Hasn’t the wife forgotten her struggle - keeping and raising something growing
in her? Man, she also has contributed an egg too (and not to mention if she is
a member of the ‘never reached the peak when got laid wife’ club).

Well, if she said the baby is her gift (or
God’s gift) for herself (or themselves - husband and wife), than it might fit.
Okay, the husband might be accompanying her to the doctor, driving her there,
or got bitched along the pregnancy. But it’s just the same as – for the money
saving case - driving her to the bank and hearing her bitching about how awful
the service in the bank is. But later, he doesn’t have to give any birthday
present for the wife (although he might want to) because she said he doesn’t
have to spend any more money. It will be ok to use the one that she’s been
saving – for her birthday present.

Hey, for all husbands out there, I’m not
targeting you with this. I’m targeting the ‘nrimo wives’ who doesn’t want to
claim what she deserves.

I once overheard someone told her friend
about her sister who has just having a baby. She got herself a 2,6 kg gold from
the husband. 2,6 kg was her baby’s weight when born. For the first baby she got
3 kg. No doubt that someone’s family’s rich, but that is A concept! And I like
the sound of it. This is just a thought, but, if
only a wife calculates the risk and suffering of being pregnant – and just to
be real kind to the loving husband – by asking for as low as, say, 100.000 for
each month she has to carry the pregnancy (make it double for a twin
pregnancy), maybe in the end, after having the baby, her baby blues syndrome
will be eased. Because she will get herself 1000.000 (10 mo’s carrying a baby,
man) to spend on anything she like.

I’m not suggesting that wives has to be
‘matre’ or money oriented. Name your gift or don’t, it’s up to you. But don’t
act like the first case. Just don’t do anything that can be categorized
‘nrimo’.

You take a balanced approach to your life. You definitely aren’t afraid to act out on your desires - even crazy ones. But you usually think first. Morals drive you as much as hedonism does. You’ve been able to live a life of pleasure… without living a life of excess.

http://www.blogthings.com/areyouidegoorsuperegoquiz/

Today’s Kelly’s birthday and Bonyok’s 34th anniversary. Kita (Gw, Kelly, Bokap, Nyokap, Qiera, Rieke, Veri) makan2 di Central Bulungan.
Enak en so terjangkau. Here’s the pic:

Qiera kocak bgt, kecentilan abiss!!

Onstage, drummers usually have to stay in one place and keep the beat going. Off stage, they’re far less predictable. Drummers are known for being wild partiers, but you seem like the kind of person who’d have no trouble keeping up. Drummers sometimes wear very little clothing (guy drummers may even go shirtless), but you have no objections to their casual, sexy style! No matter how old the drummer is compared to the rest of the band, he/she tends to act like a playful little kid. The stereotypical drummer isn’t concerned with looking like a brilliant intellectual in interviews, because it’s more fun to joke around than it is to take the questions seriously. When you hear that a band is recording with a drum machine instead of a real person, you feel like they’re missing the whole point of rock ‘n’ roll. Real drummers are passionate and a little bit wild, and no machine could ever take their place in your heart.

Taka the quiz http://www.the-n.com/games/quiz_main.php?id=3162

Ada satu tokoh di anime Samurai Champloo, namanya Kariya, yang bilang kalo ‘despair’ itu ada karena manusia punya yang namanya ‘hope’. Jadi selama manusia punya pengharapan, selalu akan ada yang namanya keputusasaan.
Gw dari dulu selalu set my mind untuk mengharapkan yang paling baik, tapi juga selalu siap kalo yang terjadi adalah yang paling buruk. Biar gw nggak terlalu sakit hati kalo yang gw inginkan nggak terjadi sesuai rencana.
Tapi setaun belakangan ini sepertinya gw nggak bisa terlalu stick to that rule.
Kalo gw samain dengan orang yang setiap hari harus naik kendaraan sendiri di Jakarta, gw tadinya tipe yang penuh pengharapan dan antisipasi. Kalo hari ini jam segini jangan lewat jalan mana, karena macet. Kalo jamnya 3 in 1 mendingan nunggu di mall. Kalo jam pulang kantor mendingan jangan lewat Radal karena macet mampus. Sort of thingslah.
Tapi walopun udah antisipasi gila2an, gw tetep aja  nggak bakalan lolos dari kemacetan yang diakibatkan karena, misalnya, tiang iklan tumbang karena angin ribut. Kalo orang terjebak di kemacetan yang nggak jelas, biasanya hal pertama yang dilakuin ialah nanya: "Ada apa sih, kenapa macet abis gini?" Which is percuma, cuz ke-tau-an kita tentang penyebab macet saat ini nggak bikin kita serta merta lolos dari si macet. Tetep aja kita stuck di tengah jalan. Lalu, pengetahuan tentang penyebab kemacetan itu nggak bikin kita lolos dari macet besok2nya. Hari ini tiang iklan tumbang, besok demo, besoknya lagi peresmian mall…yang tersisa besok dan besoknya dan besoknya lagi ialah rasa BT karena kemarennya terperangkap di jalan, padahal segala upaya pencegahan udah dilakuin. Gitu.
Terus, change the subject from traffic to love. Got it? That’s why sekarang ini I guess Carpe Diem in love suits me better.

PS:
Ini dibikin pas gw PMS berat. That explains the tone kan?

(29072006)

Kita makan-makan di Coca Suki Dharmawangsa Square buat perpisahannya Windy en Yudi sepupu gw. Yudi balik ke Amrik buat PhDnya en Windy rencananya mo lanjut S2.
Abis Coca Suki trus nyambung ke Pizza Club juga di Dharmawangsa Square buat ngobrol ngalor ngidul, soalnya bakalan lama nih nggak ktemuan. Gonna miss them nih.
Pesen buat Windy en Yudi, sapa tau baca blog gw.
baek-baek ya di sana, have fun and all en sapa tau dapet soulmate…hehehe. Yang penting pulang dari sono gw mesti dibawain plenty of oleh2.OK cuzs? :)))

(28072006)

Aduh, gw begitu cinta dengan Addie MS dan Twilight Orchestranya!
Mereka presented Beginning of Fantasy The Concert - Konser orchestra yang bawain lagu-lagu dari Final Fantasy! You know how I feel about this Final Fantasy blabla, always imagining living in FF realm for real, terus sekarang gw dapet kesempatan nonton konsernya… Waaah!! seneng banget!
Konser dibuka sama lagu Fitos Lusec dari FF VIII yang bikin gw merinding saking terharunya. Terus dilanjutin sama The Place I’ll Return Someday, the one that made me cry, apalagi langsung sama Melodies of Life. Wah, gw langsung cried abis like hell karena itu lagu kawinan gw (and the fact bhw Kelly nggak bisa nonton bareng gw karena latian ngeben). Trus ada lagi theme2nya Tifa, Cloud cowoq gw en Aerith (sedih..), lagunya Terra FF VI yang baru pertama kali gw denger tapi langsung gw regard as keren abis, Chocobo theme yang kocak banget,dll. Yang paling keren, enchorenya One Winged Angel (itu lho, Sephiroth dari FF VII). Gila deh pokoknya, totally awesome! O iya, disiaran juga di Jak TV. Seru juga, walopun ada yang dipotong2.
Twilight Orchestra itu koq never failed to amaze me yah. Setelah waktu itu gw nonton konser Star Wars, sekarang Final Fantasy. I wonder nih, apalagi yang bakal mereka bawain besok-besok ya?

He should be:
Smart, attractive, educated and knowledgeable, passionate, sexy, really good in bed, a ‘bad boy’, at least 10 cm taller than I am, a man who respects woman and other people,  noticeable, a man of his words, respective, likable, loyal and royal, faithful, an achiever, manly, not too straight  but ’straight’, a person who stands out - knows what he really wants and always try for the better, caring and loving, fun to be with, having a warm personality, friendly, having an adequate amount of rebel side, an active and extrovert person, a person who accepts differences, an animal lover, there for me 24/7 and trying with all his power to make me happy.

He shouldn’t be:
A loser, too ugly that I can’t stand looking at his face, shabby, loathsome, weird in appearance, kerempeng and begeng, wearing wrong outfit in a wrong place, stinky, a racist, an atheist, a fanatic, a psycho, afraid to try new things, afraid to take actions, having a low self esteem, stingy, a person who forbids and discourages, straying, trashy and a low life, unstable and dependent.

And my husband has them all.

16072006: Kelly Adam Tangoi, Happy Birthday!!
May all your wishes come true!